I have this question a lot. Yes, I go out there and creating these ATTRACTION things. And sometime didn’t have a change to see the girl again for days or weeks. Will she remember me as that fun guy she met? or…? My friend Kim wrote this article
“Attraction Addiction” for The Art of Charm and I like to share it with everyone.
In this community, we have an abundance of material to help us learn how to create attraction, but not as much on how to keep it and grow it.
What happens after the day two?
Once attraction is established, how does one create and maintain a relationship?
This information is not as readily available, and there are some fairly simple reasons why. The most predominant one is a tendency to be looking for shortcuts rather than enjoying the experience as a whole. If you’re looking for something short-term, then shortcuts might work for you. If you want something more lasting, then it’s time to learn how to enjoy the journeyrather than looking for the end game.
Let’s use martial arts as an example.
Traditionally, it takes years to learn the discipline required to not only perform the physical movements, but to develop strength of character and inner harmony along a path of self-discovery. Now, in America, there’s a dojo in every strip mall where a person can test for a new belt every six months. They can learn how to use weapons and kick someone’s theoretical ass in a couple of one-hour sessions each week and get a pretty new belt and bragging rights at the water cooler. They learn some of the physical tools but much less of the accompanying wisdom to govern how and when to use them. A large part of the core of the discipline is abandoned.
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How long before the attraction wear thin?
I have this question a lot. Yes, I go out there and creating these ATTRACTION things. And sometime didn’t have a change to see the girl again for days or weeks. Will she remember me as that fun guy she met? or…? My friend Kim wrote this article
“Attraction Addiction” for The Art of Charm and I like to share it with everyone.
In this community, we have an abundance of material to help us learn how to create attraction, but not as much on how to keep it and grow it.
What happens after the day two?
Once attraction is established, how does one create and maintain a relationship?
This information is not as readily available, and there are some fairly simple reasons why. The most predominant one is a tendency to be looking for shortcuts rather than enjoying the experience as a whole. If you’re looking for something short-term, then shortcuts might work for you. If you want something more lasting, then it’s time to learn how to enjoy the journeyrather than looking for the end game.
Let’s use martial arts as an example.
Traditionally, it takes years to learn the discipline required to not only perform the physical movements, but to develop strength of character and inner harmony along a path of self-discovery. Now, in America, there’s a dojo in every strip mall where a person can test for a new belt every six months. They can learn how to use weapons and kick someone’s theoretical ass in a couple of one-hour sessions each week and get a pretty new belt and bragging rights at the water cooler. They learn some of the physical tools but much less of the accompanying wisdom to govern how and when to use them. A large part of the core of the discipline is abandoned.
Read more